Those words really got to me the other day. We were discussing with family how midget number three worked or more not worked. And that it was impossible to predict what would happen and why things happened. A thing that worked perfectly last week is impossible today. And a goal that was never to be reaches yesterday is a nothing today.
That makes our lives hard.. And so very interesting.
So her worlds were
” he’s just like a puzzle .. No wait a Hogwarts puzzle. – She laughs – no I know he’s like a Hogwarts staircase. You never know where it is and where you’ll end up”
And that is truer than true
Live is hard and unpredictable with our boy. But we can make it easier with planning planning planning. Sometimes even that doesn’t work so we need to adjust life around. He’s not very adjustable but that’s ok.
I wouldn’t plant a flower that’s supposed to be in the shade in gazing sunlight now would I ?
So who not adjust the surroundings for a child. They should be more important than a flower. Or at least in my world they are.
As a parent you need to see to they child’s needs first. Always. That’s your job !! You know that when you have children. Your not supposed to go under because of the child. It’s a scale… Add some here and remove some there to even things out.
Having a child with difficulties makes that scale harder to balance. But it is possible !!!
It’s sad when one parent don’t get that and let’s their own interests always go before the child’s. ALWAYS.
And so much harder for the other parent to pick up the pieces of the shattered mind when the child comes back. Or on the phone while away.
But…. Our loved Hogwarts staircase is worth it. And we will pick up the pieces until the day he’s had enough of changes plans and broken promises. Then we will care for him full time. And life will be so much calmer.